Hmm. I finished the Kay Arthur book last night. Up until the point that I last wrote, I was enchanted. However, the couple of chapters I had left -- well, they bothered me a bit. Part of it is that I think she was trying to tackle too much in the book. She broke focus from the marriage to talk about finances and about child-rearing. Now, don't get me wrong, both of these things are extremely important elements in a marriage and should have been discussed. But the way she went about it made me feel as if both subjects should have had a separate book, and she didn't really relate them back into the whole realm of marriage. It began to feel preachy. And, quite unfortunately, I finally disagreed with her on two strategic points.
One point is that she believes in the whole "hands are made for loving, and discipline should be done with an object to spank with' thing. A paddle, a 'rod'. I don't agree that this should be interpreted literally from the bible. Certain things were done in the day and should not be done in this day. If you spank your child, it should be with your hand only, and only on the bottom, and only up until a certain age where that child can have other reasonable punishment. I do not believe in beating a teenager with a belt because they missed curfew, because all they get from that is pain and humiliation, not a life-lesson, and it's not a relative punishment befitting the 'crime'. Another disagreement I had with Kay Arthur is in her financial section about giving, she said that the New Testament disregards tithing as a percentage and it should be whatever you feel you can give, and to give cheerfully. I firmly believe in giving 10%, and that God set that because it's not an amount, it's a percentage. If you make a lot of money or a little money, you can give what God asks of you. It's to be returned to him as an acknowledgment that all we have and all we are comes from him. If left to their own devices saying, oh, just give whatever you feel like... well, we won't learn the discipline of tithing or the acknowledgment of God's gifts. We're human and we'll be stingy and we'll stick 40 cents in the offering plate because we want to go out to dinner later. I don't believe the New Testament does away with our giving.
Overall, it was a really great book, however, and I suggest everyone read it, and take the last few chapters with a grain of salt.
I stared "About Alice" last night and will likely finish it today. It's a quick, witty read by Calvin Trillin about his wife, Alice. Thus, the book is aptly named.
I'm enjoying the Steve Martin book so much I could read it twice even though it won't count.
Fun with theatre friends tonight! Happy weekend, everyone!